I took the are you over scheduled quiz and my result was:
A Little Overscheduled: You're not in serious trouble, but you could be doing better. You appear to be a little overscheduled, and it could be affecting some areas of your life. You should be able to reduce some stress by using the resources below.
Resources for a Balanced Life:
Power Napping and The Importance of Sleep Learn how a lack of sleep can make you less productive and more stressed, and find ways of scheduling more sleep for yourself.
The Benefits of Assertiveness Learning assertiveness communication techniques can help you reduce stress in your life and clear your schedule. Learn how!
The Importance of Self Care Constantly putting yourself last on the list (or are you even on the list?) can backfire. Learn how, and see what you can do in the way of caring for yourself, too.
Stress and Nutrition Poor nutrition can actually cause stress, and ironically, the stressed and busy usually aren't the ones eating right! Learn how you can have a healthier diet and keep stress levels low.
Stress Relief with Exercises Exercise keeps you healthy and attractive, and reduces stress. Learn why and how you should work in a workout.
Mess = Stress Is your home a sanctuary from stress--or a cause of it? Learn why clutter can cause stress, and find out how to keep your home ordered and serene.
Are you over scheduled? I must say I tend to be happiest with a full schedule. At times it can become overwhelming, but it usually tends to work out. I use to be more of a people pleaser, but now I try to focus on what provides additional positive experiences to my life. Being able to say "no" to a scheduling invitation because time does not permit or you are not interest is a very good skill to have.
Tips for saying no:
STEP 1: You can begin by saying any of the following:
Thank you for the invitation, but...
I'm so sorry, but...
I would love to go, but...
I would like to go, but
That sounds great, but...
I wish I could, but...
Thank you for thinking of me, but...
STEP 2:
Then, you give your excuse.
If you want to, tell the person why. You can also say no without giving specific information. Here is what you can say:
I already have plans. (Also, I've got plans.)
I'm booked.
I won't be able to come
STEP 3:
You can stop the conversation if you want to, or you can suggest a future event: Can I/we _________ another time? For example, Can I meet with you another time? or Can we get together later? This means that you will do something together in the future. You do not have to be specific at the moment.
However, at other times I wish I could be in two places at once! Unfortunately, when I try to do this it does not always work out the way I imagined it. It can often become rushed, hectic and overwhelming and you are not able to enjoy either of your engagements, because you are rushing from one to another. I am getting better about declining the 2nd offer and enjoying what I already agreed to do. Overall, enjoy what you commitment to and review your schedule often and make sure you always find room for those friends, family and priorities most important to you.
Are you over scheduled? Take the the Quiz http://http://stress.about.com/library/overscheduled/bl_overscheduled_quiz.htm
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